03/21/2010
Often after a quarrel with your beloved Slavic wife you feel angry and hurt, cannot be close to her, and some coldness in your chest prevents you from breathing normally. You don’t know what to do with that feeling. Every psychotherapist will advise you to sit down and discuss the problem calmly with your foreign wife. However, you have tried it a million times and know that as soon as you try to explain what hurt you, a new quarrel can hardly be avoided. And you are right. Each of us wishes to talk and reveal our feelings. The most difficult is to persuade the girl from Eastern Europe, particularly in a low voice and calmly. First, agree that you won’t interrupt each other. Talk in turns, listen to your Slavic woman and do your best to understand her. The benefit of such a technique is that each of you will feel heard, which is usually the core of the quarrel. You will have the opportunity to express your pain and offence.
