06/29/2015
Typically, this issue worries our mothers and grandmothers, curious colleagues, and not burdened with a sense of tact friends. Sometimes our enthusiastic Russian women asked it with astonishment. But sometimes we do look in the mirror and think: in fact, why am I still not married?
If you dream of a family, and there is no a candidate for the wife, you should try to understand the causes of why it is happening. It is possible that you will find yourself in some points from the list provided.
1. You are afraid of a close relationship.
This is perhaps the main reason for the loneliness of modern men, many of whom do not experience the lack of girlfriends, but they do not hurry into marriage. Really close relationships are impossible without affection and dependence on a loved one, and the risk that your heart will be broken always takes place. But at the same time refusing to take the risk, we lose a priori, depriving ourselves of the opportunity to be truly happy.
2. You are too inaccessible.
Wanting it or not, in dealing with women you picture inaccessibility and strictly keep the distance. First-time the girlfriends are intrigued, but gradually they get tired, even the most persistent ones are tired to gain on as they come to the conclusion that they are not interesting for you.
3. You keep the past
To miss for a lost love and bitterly remember crashed your heart ex-girlfriend is quite natural. But if the ghosts of the past constantly arise between you and the new girlfriends, and you are comparing every woman who appears in your life, with your ex-lover, you risk to sacrifice your own future for the sake of the past that doesn’t let you go.
4. You do not decide to stop unpromising relations
It is possible that you’re not able to get married due to the relationship that should be completed long ago, but you do not have enough determination. American psychologist Amir Levine found the accurate term «situationship» for such deadlock cases. It is a hybrid of the words «situation» and «relationship”. It means the leading nowhere relationships that are difficult to break up - but it is necessary if you are going to find true happiness.
5. You lack theatricality
If there are passionate quarrels in your relationship and then – verbose text, vows, long explanation of the relationship and quarrel again - you should honestly try to answer the question: you really like these continuous "roller coaster"? Until you waste your time on the ongoing performance, the ladies who are ready to a sincere and deep relationship are unnoticeable by you and you are rejecting them because compared to your Drama around the clock, they seem boring to you.
